You can dance with someone and really not be in sync. You can be stepping all over each other. But, if you really like the person or if this is a romantic relationship, it just doesn’t matter. You delight in your partner’s goofiness or lack of coordination.
After you’ve been with your partner for a while, you might feel that dancing together is not so cute anymore. The stumbling no longer delights you. It annoys you.
Remember when you met your significant other? You were so in love that everything that person did and said was wonderful. This person seemed perfect to you and for you. It was bliss.
In the beginning of your relationship, you delighted in your partner’s little eccentricities and habits. You embraced them, thought they were adorable. Well now they are just irritating. You sigh and look back at that beginning and think that you were infatuated. You think that infatuation caused you to see your partner as perfect. You think your infatuation was a lie, an illusion.
I’ve been through divorces (two) and break-ups (many) and I know that sometimes the relationship just does not work. Sometimes it’s just hell and you have to get out. Now.
But, if you still love your partner, here’s a thought: In the beginning, when you saw your partner as perfect and beautiful, that was the truth. The little, petty annoyances are the illusion and the lie. At the start of your relationship you saw, with a heightened perception born of real love, who your partner really is underneath the words and the veneer we all have. That was not just infatuation; your partner’s perfection is the truth. Your own perfection that lies beneath the words and the mask is also the truth.
Love propels us to a higher vibration where we can see what’s true.
That perfection is within us all. We need only acknowledge it.