If there are two violins in a room and a string on one of them is plucked, the other violin’s string will start to vibrate on its own. Or if there are two metronomes in a room set at different rhythms, they will eventually match each other and start to move in the same rhythm. Quantum physics has shown that everything is made of the same basic substance and, further, particles that seem to be separate are intimately connected on a level that is beyond time and space.
When clients enter a dance class there is an agreement, consciously and unconsciously, that the teacher is the leader. The group follows the teacher and becomes “one.” They are individuals that make up an entity: the class. This means that even though an individual has her own experience, she is a part of a greater communal experience.
As the music starts and the class starts moving, all the individuals become synchronous with one another. When I am teaching and I realize I am not breathing, I can bet that half the class is also holding their breath. When someone allows a latecomer space, she has also, paradoxically, made more space for herself.
When we stop defending our “territory” we often find that we don’t need to defend our territory at all---that it was a situation created and sustained by our own thoughts and mirrored back to us.
Have you ever had an argument with someone and you decided to soften and own your part in the disagreement? Frequently that causes the other person to soften, too. Then an issue that seemed like a huge obstacle diminishes and sometimes disappears altogether.
The saying “what goes around comes around” takes on a new meaning; It is not some cosmic punishment/reward system. It simply means that since we are all connected, what you do to or for another, you do to or for yourself. When you give a person a break, you’ve given yourself a break, too.
I realize it is a fantasy to believe that everyone will respond positively to our realization that we are all connected. But if we can try to keep that thought in our minds, we would start treating each other and ourselves with more kindness.
Every time we give another person encouragement, we are encouraging ourselves.
Every time we acknowledge another’s beauty, brilliance or achievements, we give ourselves the space to recognize those qualities in ourselves.
Every time I say, “I love you” I am reminding myself that I too, am loved.
It’s the Golden Rule in a single word: One.